10 Tips For Long Lasting Relationships

 

I grew up around some few marriages that portrayed this word “love”. My mentor has been married for 14years and they have never exchanged words, they have never shouted at the top of their voices to each other. But then what is their secret? How do they manage to maintain, and strengthen, their love through the years? Here, I decided to list out the 10 tips for a lasting relationship and marriages…

    10 tips for lasting relationships:

  • Go to bed together. This doesn’t mean go have sex every single night, but rather go to bed at the same time. Dr. Goulston reckons that “happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times”. There’s nothing like a bedtime cuddle!
  • Work out your common interests. It’s fine if he loves while football
    you are into fashion, and you shouldn’t worry if the thing you
    find most boring is what really gets him going. But Dr. Goulston
    reminds us that the initial passion won’t last forever, so you need to
    make sure there’s some substance behind your relationship. “If common interests aren’t present, happy couples develop them,” he says. “Don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do
    together that you both enjoy. At the same time, be sure to cultivate
    interests of your own; this will make you more interesting and
    prevent you from appearing too dependent.”
  • Hold hands. Next time you’re out together, make sure you arwe holding one another’s hand. A public sign of affection, Dr. Goulston advises that it’s a sign of real comfort and secuiry.”
  • Always trust and try to forgive. Obviously this depends on the
    severity of your disagreement, but as a general rule Dr. Goulston
    thinks it’s key to make “trusting and forgiving, rather than
    distrusting and begrudging” your default setting after an argument.
  • Focus on what they do right, not what they do wrong. Positive
    reinforcement is an age-old concept used with children and even the training of animals. But it’s still important for fully grown
    adults too. So compliment your partner when they deserve it and try not to look for things they do wrong. “Happy couples accentuate the positive.”
  • Don’t forget to hug. Dr. Goulston urges us to hug our partner
    every single day (if circumstance allows). “Our skin has a memory of
    ‘good touch’ (loved), ‘bad touch’ (abused), and ‘no Touch’ (neglected),” he explains. “Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the ‘good touch,’ which can inoculate your
    spirit against anonymity in the world.”
  •  Say “I love you” and “have a good day” every morning. Seems obvious, but it’s an important one. Saying something caring like that
    first thing will set the other up for their day. “It’s a great way to buy
    some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to
    battle traffic jams, long lines, and other annoyances.”
  • Say good night, every night. Regardless of how you feel. Never go to bed on an argument. According to Dr. Goulston, even the gesture of saying good night “tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have and share is bigger than any single upsetting incident.”
  •  Check in with them throughout the day. Calling your partner to
    see how their day is going is “a great way to adjust expectations so
    that you’re more in sync when you connect after work.” So if your
    other half has had a nightmare of a day, you know what to expect.
  • Be proud to be seen together. We know there’s a line between a
    sweet show affection and blatant PDA, but Dr. Goulston reminds us
    that a display of tenderness in public is important. “It’s not showing off, but rather just saying that they belong to each other,” he tells us.

Feeling loved and loving someone is a good feeling. We all deserve to be loved and love someone… It makes life easy and going. And I bet you when all these things are applied in your relationship and marriage, e never born that devil wey go scatter una #Winks#

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4 Thoughts to “10 Tips For Long Lasting Relationships”

  1. Oh my goodness! an wonderful article dude. Thank you Having said that I’m experiencing problem with ur rss . Don’t know why Unable to subscribe to it. Is there any person acquiring identical rss difficulty? Anybody who knows kindly respond.

  2. Chinonso

    I like the be proud to be seen together…. one I always admire

    1. Ukamaka Doris

      True…. It makes me feel secured

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