We know that being a third wheel in a relationship has its sour side. But there are things you ought to know if you ever find yourself in such situation.
1. It won’t end well.
A relationship is often likened to a tree that will grow strong, take root and spread its branches. When two people get together, naturally they will think of marriage, getting a house and having kids to form a family. But when you’re a third-party, essentially you’re throwing the original couple’s plans into disarray.
2. The guy is likely to cheat on you, too.
If the guy can cheat on his gf/wife with you, what makes you think that he won’t cheat on you with someone else?
3. You are probably not his only “back up”. I realize that cheating guys usually cheat on their gf/ wife with more than one girl. I reckon that they think that since they are already cheating, it doesn’t really matter if it’s with one, two, three or four girls.
4. You will have the reputation of being the slut / home wrecker.
If you decide to be the third-party, while in full knowledge that the guy is attached, basically you’re consciously just throwing your reputation down the drain. Usually the first thing people will remember about you is how you shamelessly agree to be the third-party.
5. You deserve a better guy.
Seriously, maybe women who accept the role of the third-party do so because they are afraid that they can’t find a better guy. I’m telling you right now that your value and worth is not based on some jerk’s affection for you. Go tell that guy to fly a kite because you deserve someone better than him, someone who can devote his entire heart to you and not have to share it with number of girls.
6. Your relationship can’t see the light of day.
He probably deletes every message after you send them incase his girlfriend sees it. A healthy relationship is one where there is no hiding, you don’t have to nor should you be afraid of people seeing you two together. If the guy is afraid to bring you out to crowded places – with the exception that he is some super hot star – do yourself a favour, drop him like a hot cake, please.
7. You won’t be his one devotion.
You already know he has a gf/wife and chances are, you are second place. I hope you won’t fall for the “I am with her but my heart is with you”.
8. You will cheapen yourself.
Humans will only treasure what they fought hard to get. When you fall into the third-party place, the guy is unlikely to treat you like a hard-earned precious pearl since he ain’t going to give you the full treatment that’s reserved for his main gf/wife – wedding banquet and all. Imagine that, just imagine that.
9. If he meant to break up with his gf/wife, he would have done so already.
If he claims that he will break up when “the time is right”, please don’t be so naive. He will not break up. He is leading you on and you will be the fool if you follow him.
Now you know, what do you think?