Marriage is a life time journey that should be studied before one embarks on it. It shouldn’t be rushed into, you rush out of it quickly as you rush in if you don’t study this institution. It shouldn’t either be because my mates are all married, I should marry too. Marriage should be enjoyed not endured, it should depict love, strength, trust and hope, void of quarrels, arguments and separation. Two should be better than one, and that is applicable to marriages too. The rate of divorce in the society are exceedingly high, all because we fail to do and learn what we should do to make our marriage work.
Here, I am going to discuss about the right temperament that should match in marriages
- Sanguine Personality Type – People with sanguine personality type tend to be lively, optimistic, buoyant, and carefree. They love adventure and have a high risk tolerance. Typically, Sanguine people are very poor at tolerating boredom and will seek variety and
entertainment. Needless to say, this trait may sometimes negatively affect their romantic
relationships. Because this temperament is prone to pleasure-seeking behaviours. These people are fantastic entertainers and will naturally do well if they choose careers in entertainment industry. Their natural abilities will also serve them well if they choose jobs related to marketing, travel, fashion, cooking, or sports. When your partner has this temperament, don’t judge her/him or criticize for over shopping, always wanting to go to one party or another, it will only take your understanding to know she/he isn’t doing this at will but because she/hates boredom. Call her/him and tell him/her in a calm, loving voice how expensive her/his lifestyle is, someone who wants to stay will listen to you. And if you have this temperament type as a partner, make sure you aren’t this temperament too, I tell you, you won’t end up well. The house will always be on fire!
- Phlegmatic Personality Type – Someone with phlegmatic personality type is usually a people person. They seek interpersonal
harmony and close relationships. Phlegmatic people always make loyal spouses and loving parents. People with phlegmatic temperament tend to avoid conflicts and always try to restore peace and harmony. Thats why you see a woman whose husband beats, yet she still stays with him, loving him and cooking for him. Its not because she has not heard of the word “divorce” but she believes in peace and not disgrace, she chooses to seperate from the man for a time while she hopes for a change. If you marry such person, you are what I call fortunate, they are always wanting your love and attention, don’t see it as bugging you but understand its the person they are. When you are this type of temperament, you can marry the person with it, the house will be too cold or you can chose not to as to balance the equation of hot and cold… Lols
- Choleric Personality Type – Someone with pure choleric l temperament is usually a goal-oriented person. People with
choleric personality type are very savvy, analytical, and logical. Extremely practical and straightforward, choleric people aren’t necessary very good companions or particularly social. They dislike small talk and enjoy deep and meaningful conversations. They would rather be alone than in company of shallow, superficial people. They want to spend time with people who have similar professional interests. They love work and they are too calculative. They can calculate for you when you last made love to them, how many months you have carried your hair, the last time you brought money for upkeep. You can’t term them greedy or stingy but at a point, I can.. Lol. They will give you the exact money you demanded. When you have such partner, use what I call tactics to get what you want jor and still remain happy in your marriage instead of developing hatred for the person.
- Melancholic Personality Type – People with melancholic personality type are always looking moody even when they are happy. They love their families and
friends and they do not look for adventure. In fact, they
avoid it at all costs. Someone with melancholic temperament cannot leave their homeland for another country or allow the husband go out alone. Infact, if you are packing, they are packing as well.
So let’s go out there, hold that man/lady we are in live with, study his/her character before saying “I do”…. And come back and share testimonies.